A relationship between a man and a woman is being built according to a few “interaction points”, meaningly:

1) Psycho-physiological interaction;
2) Intellectual interaction;
3) Psychological interaction. 

And take the following forms correspondingly:
1) Sex;
2) Friendship;
3) Love. 

The interactions are being caused and influenced by:

1) Instincts, inborn reflexes, acquired reflexes and also psychological reflexes. The nature of these motive forces is very deep as it’s connected with psychics and physiology;
2) Consciousness and mind;
3) Subconsciousness and emotions.

The interactions have the following purposes:
1) Fulfilling the need in physical contact, touches, psychological lessing of tension;
2) Information exchange (“food for the brain”), time structuring, social positioning, mutual help;
3) Fulfilling the need in emotional experience.

The conditions of interaction appearance and increase:
1) The need in physical contacts. Selectivity is minimal but it’s strongly tabooed by “parental prohibitions” and an acquired negative experience (stereotypes, inner “taboos”) caused by traditions and the influence of the social environment. The condition of increase lies in the search of successful compromises between the “parental prohibitions” and the “demands of nature”.

2) Social, cultural and intellectual commonness. Structurally close “life scenarios” with similar purposes and results. The condition of increase lies in the enlargement of the exchange owing to common interests and purposes. This is the highest degree of inventiveness! If a person says that he has a lot of friends don’t believe him! There can’t be A LOT OF friends. There can be a lot of acquaintances but not friends.

3) The need for emotions. A person needs emotions for his psychics (the steam-boiler where all emotions boil) functioning. Emotional processes take place in the subconsciousness whereas our consciousness only registers the results. The mechanism of the interaction is studied by psychoanalysis. For a conscious increase of the interaction one can apply many different psycho techniques however every one of us can increase it subconsciously by means of our intuition. 

All interactions mentioned above usually can be found in a particular case of a woman and man’s communication. If such a relationship lacks one of the three components the communication can still take place but in such a case it becomes disharmonious and incapable of fulfilling all the demands. If there is only one component to be found the communication will die hardly ever having started. Almost all the mistakes and misfortunes in a relationship can be analyzed and explained in the light of this classification. The majority of them come from mutual misunderstanding.

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